Being The Other Woman: The complete handbook for every woman in love with a married man Paperback – April 8, 2009

I found this book extremely helpful because I never thought I could see both sides of the spectrum. Petra Falk puts the "affair" into words that are completely understandable. If you are the other woman or have ever been the other woman then you can totally relate. I also find myself always referring to this book a lot. Thank you

I am thrilled with this book! Petra's sense of humor and keen insight, as well as her first hand experience opened my eyes on a lot of things. She isn't out to bash women or men who find themselves in this situation, but urges you to go in with open eyes and an open mind. She makes it clear that that she doesn't condone extramarital affairs, but she does admit that it's not for everyone. This book is for all, those of you that are in an affair, has been, never been, or those that are thinking about it. All that read this book can appreciate Petra's honesty and her sense of humor thoughout the book;l and her ability to put it all in a book that's made for good reading.Petra is very detailed and forthcoming about her own experiences, so she can testify to what a lot if you in affairs are feeling. She gives though-provoking revelations and eye opening testimonies throughout the book. I can read it over and over again and never get tired of it. You will not regret buying this book!

I purchased this and several other books on the subject of being 'the other woman' because a female co-worker of mine is involved with a married man. As a male, I could understand his interests, whether I agree with what they are doing or not. On the other hand, I wanted to see a woman's perspective on what my co-worker may (or may not) be getting into. I have no romantic interest in my co-worker but we are on close enough terms that I wanted a book I could put in her hand and say something to the effect of 'Consider this...'.As stated above, I read several books on this subject and this was one of two that I passed on to my co-worker and she thanked me after reading the two that I thought were worth her time. This was an exceptionally open account of the author's infidelity along with others within her social circle. The prologue contains the key sentence '... it (the book) is meant to be a book that will help those who are already finding themselves in this situation to survive doing the least harm to everyone involved, including themselves'. The second chapter of the book is entitled 'How to be the perfect other woman' and then the opening sentence is 'In a word, Don't!'. The author frequently repeats her effective slogan that an affair will end in tears - usually yours. The book continues to spell out the emotional damage that is likely to befall husbands, wives and 'other women'. Since this is a very insightful book, it would be easy to ponder why I did not give it a five star rating. The answer is simple: The author emphatically states affairs are almost always a disaster for the 'other woman' but the book does contain enough information on affairs that it can be used as a 'how to' manual. One chapter is called 'Prerequisites for a successful affair' and another is 'Not getting caught'. This is the one real problem with the book - it occasionally interrupts its warnings with anecdotes which will tempt some readers to think that they will be the rare exception and not pay a price for one's actions. For example, after a long winded statement on how affairs end in anguish for the 'other woman', the author adds the not very subtle statement that if the reader were to get involved in an affair and find herself crying when it falls apart then she should at least be able to say 'It was worth it'. These are the type of statements that lead to moral ambiguity and undermine the repeated warnings that are offered. There is a lot of information here and it is helped by the fact the author is a female who has been unfaithful herself but she also took the step of consulting a man to add perspective to the text. This book reads easily and quickly and will offer a broad range of observations which are beneficial to its target audience but the occasional lapses into 'affair nostalgia' are a potential danger.

A truly cleverly written, gripping harsh reality jerk! Well Done to Petra Falk. As well as having superbly constructed grammatical formation, the advice is a fantastic "psychological counselling session" and a great tool to get all women back on track, aiming for a relationship that has a future.. It is completely non-judgmental but instils awareness of major damage and avoidance. "Don't do it".

I read this because there was an OW in my Marriage and I wanted insight in what type of loser tries to make a Man want to leave his wife.My husband never left me for her and said he never loved her(who knows what he told her)but it's been a long road to repair the damage the OW caused.This book made me angry to read about these Tramps but also made me feel better to know they are usually hurting too as they are really just Hotel whores and only get their Man for blocks of time here and there and they are usually the ones that end up alone,not the Wife.I try to picture her in a cheesy Hotel room full of bedbugs while the wife and kids get the nice Hotels and a full Vacation,not 2 hours here and there,all spent hidden in the shadows.I do believe in Karma and think that's why many of these Women never get the Man to leave their wives.It did help to read this and understand that the life of the OW isn't this big Fantasy with chocolate and roses-that they are really just a drug or an escape for the Man,they're not real-and eventually their newness wears off and they will probably lose their appeal and make the Man appreciate their Wife more

The information in the book can be useful for people who are new to being "the Other Woman." However, the information in this book is very repetitious. The aspects that bothered me the most were the spelling errors, poor formatting and typos. It makes it difficult to focus on the content with these as distractions.

This book was AMAZING, came into my life at just the right time. This book helped me on so many levels, it really helped me understand the situation of being The Other Women and that you can't always control the situation that you are in, that you just have to enjoy your life. It was also helpful to know that I wasn't alone and that all the thoughts and feelings I had were shared and helpful tips were given to make those thoughts and feelings easier to control.

Very helpful book.