The Second Half of Life

I wish I could get the wisdom of growing old and dying well. Jung said you only get faith to doubt. I don't simply believe the author is great and believable because she's a well read anthropologist and that I am wiser for reading her; that would be too easy and comfortable. I ask myself am I getting wiser and notice whether or not.I got a new perspective on faith (in old age) respecting my mother's incomprehensible so called resolution process stage toward death even though I didn't understand it and suspected she had lost her mind and was a vegetable. Dying properly will be important to me though I don't think I'll understand my own sense at the time any more than I do at the beginning of a physics problem.When a bunch of old people get together to talk about wisdom I worry they won't respect the wisdom process of youth and project their insecurities of losing their minds on youth.Meade had old men empower youth to think for themselves with open ended stories. I try to to read this book as an open ended story that makes me think and doesn't substitute inspiration for me thinking and doubting.I am very interested in discovering sexuality and romance untied to family in old age. I've missed having children and fear it would be unkind to have a child at my age. But, I have my own needs to have my inscrutable resolution process validated whether it be in dying or early confusions in research.It is a relief to read this book rather than risk finding or not finding my meaning of life in my research.It is a break from my very personal deep questions. Perhaps everyone's lives have extremely personal meanings that can't be turned into a science with such a book, but I must honor the fluff of a process and validate the author for trying so she'll get to a safer more productive place as I did my mother.Perhaps old folks need to validate each other as having grown peculiar and see where that peculiarity goes with reverent curiosity rather than control it away.Fear of abandonment in old age had my mother try to make me fear myself inadequate so I would need her. She could not let me go enough. I have unfounded insecurities I am overcoming.This sort of negativity can be projected as a so called electrode through generations. One gets infantile life scripts because one needs the protection of the critical parent ego state. This wound prevents us from writing our own story.One day I must read Arthur Franks in "The Wounded Storyteller"!The old must struggle for faith that we can actually attain wisdom and kindly impart it to help whole communities find freedom to find who they truly are rather than fear to be able to contrive other's approval and perhaps negative fear manipulation to merely achieve its appearance.I haven't finished this book yet. Perhaps ,when I get more read, the author will feel safe with me and share the vital wisdom of her process. Perhaps my mother also trusted me when she consciously said "I don't know what is wrong with my mind" and I kindly said "You are just very old and not making neural nets." in a sense, she was affirming my wisdom and that I still had my mind as I affirmed I loved her though she had lost hers.So this book can be good and true if approached by a person trying to be good and true. My church is using this in a wisdom circle powwow group. I wonder what this group will become with this book. We meet once a month a chapter and I'm already into the chapter on old sexuality.

I'm on disc 3, really enjoying these insights. The six sessions are spread across 8 CDs. I highly recommend the "Gratitude" program (3 CDs) to complement this. "The Four-Fold Way" (4 CDs) is also a great listen.session 1: Generativitysession 2: The Eight gates of initiation --> this is where the Abridged (European) version ends.session 3: Soloman's wisdomsession 4: Paths to intimacy ("into me see")session 5: The Nine Muses of Creativitysession 6: The Twelve Labours of Hercules...

"The Second Half of Life" can be used for those of us in the iffy third, or even quarter tiny bit of life. I don't know if I have 10 or 20 years left of activity, or time to change my external options. But Angeles also encourages the reader to consider inward change, picking up old ideas and running with them. Or, perhaps, to drop the mask and go through new gates, embracing aging as a time for calming down. Too often we think of goal setting as a call to wild and crazy. I'm reconsidering, and believe it might be to embrace contemplative but just as crazy options.I give this as a gift for 2nd marriages, 50/60+ birthday gifts, and people facing the changes brought by grief, loss, and retirement. As a therapist and author, I encourage the belief that we can draw wisdom from wise sources. Embracing True Prosperity: Guided Visualizations & Practical Tools To Realize Your Deepest Dreams The Courage to Trust: A Guide to Building Deep and Lasting Relationships

This is a beautiful hard bound copy of a book I've read twice and gifted many times over. I had the privilege of being in a workshop w/ the author who was a cultural anthropologist. This is a MUST READ for anyone in their 50's and on. It is a spiritual book and not one filled w/ facts and stats. It's about our soul and what we feel and experience as we age. Each time I read it, I'm at a different place in life and glean so much insight and beauty. f I highly recommend it.

Interesting way to address the challenges facing middle age as a women. I attended a workshop that used this book as a foundation that lead to connections I would not of found.

The Second Half of Life addresses passages that adults can grow through after passing 50. In her creative way, Angeles Arrien has woven together multiple disciplines and traditions to produce a tapestry that challenges readers with its complexity and awes them with its beauty. Her "reflections" and "Practice" sections, offer the opportunity to explore the passages from a personal perspective and in more depth. As a psychotherapist, I have used various suggestions from the book for clients transitioning one of her eight gates.

I took an online class using this book and I learned much from accepting this process of bringing together all the different yet completely related stages of my life. I am glad I bought a hard copy. At 66 years old it is lovely to see the fair young maiden alive and well within me coming out to pick roses, as well as the seasoned wise women navigating husband, family and friends with acceptance and love. If this truly is the second half I am loving the process and my spiritual connection to God. Wish I had known then what I know now but then I would not be where I am would I??

The book helped calmed my fears about aging, a shift in my thinking , I like who I am becoming in this second half of my life. I am more peaceful. A meditative experience, a joy to read. We will leave this body at some point,stop worrying about when, it happens in it's own time. Old is a state of mind,Live,move forward,relax. Nothing ages someone faster then worry and fear. Be brave,do things, be alive now. Get out of the house if you get down in spirit,even if it is just for a minute, take three deep breaths and continue the day.

This is a beautiful book of inspiration, beauty and is thought provoking. Beautiful photos and poetic quotations. I am very pleased I bought it, although my copy is in extremely large print which had not been mentioned.

She is one of the most profound educators of our times. She will be missed, but her books, videos, and teachings will live on.This book is a testament to living a meaningful life and provides a road map of harnessing the innate goodness of being human and growing us up to elderhood- to do so- we will need to commit to explore the gates inside ourselves; it transcends our view of the world from a deeper lens of illumination .Bonny Thorne

Thanks ... looking forward to reading the book. D

good book, reflexions and suggested praticesarrived in two days like it was written in the orderthanks

sometimes these ideas are difficult to apply. nice poetry, but where does a person take it in daily life? I like the questions at the end of each chapter. Very thought provoking.