Bi Men: Coming Out Every Which Way 1st Edition

Excellent read.

The chapters in this anthology are well-edited and not repetitive. One can easily appreciate the individuality, self-searching, and insight of these men. I love my monosexuality, but I can accept that these men call themselves bisexual.This book won't scare off monosexually gay men. This book is filled with Kinsey 5's to Kinsey 3's, but no Kinsey 1's. In other words, these men are mostly gay. They may come out to their wives and start getting down with men, but no essay (that I remember) had a man leaving his guy for a woman. This book has many men who are out to everyone, have primary male partners, but just want to accept their wholeness. These are not the guys that some monosexually-identified gay men fear. This may be a shortcoming of the book in that not all types of bisexual men are presented. However, this absence may be what allows complete gays to be comfortable with the work.One editor's essay is gloomy and the other editor's is comedic. I wonder if the first editor worked on the sadder pieces and the second editor on the funnier ones. The first editor has previous books on bears. The essayists here go out of their way to praise hairy men and chubby men. I doubt a prerequisite for a bisexual male identity is to like bears, thus I assume the first editor was partial to those writers that liked bears. Bisexual men that do not like bears may be put off by all the bear-chasing and -praising in the book.From the start, the editors apologize that the book has no entries from African-American men. Given the works of Elias Farajaje-Jones or the fact that the first African-American gay fictional story actually involved a bisexual protagonist, this absence is quite shocking. I think the way the editors compensated for this was to have a Black man on the cover. I celebrate that diversity, but I wonder if some men will think, "This is not a book for men who like women and men across the spectrum: this is a book for men who like women and Black men exclusively." The chapter that has an Asian-American subject involves a teen. I wish an Asian-American adult could have had a chapter. Some say that men have one type of lover in the US and a different type in their natal countries. This would have been an interesting way to explore male bisexuality but it didn't come up. Like many gay or women's anthologies, all the entries from other countries come from predominately white nations. I wish there could have been a voice of color from a developing country here.I think bisexual male readers will like this book. I also think that monosexuals could show their support by giving this book to bisexual male peers as a gift.

This book has been the most helpful book out there helping me understand what is gong on with my bisexual husband. All other books have been condemning and negative regarding married couples.Suresha does an excellent job showcasing all different men in an humanistic light. I highly recommend this book for both women and men interested in finding out more about male bisexuality.

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BI MEN is an excellent, wide-ranging introduction to the bi male psyche. Despite its somewhat scholastic format (it was published as a double issue of the Journal of Bisexuality, and the publisher retained elements such as chapter keywords and abstracts usually not present in trade books), is a moving collection of coming-out stories by bi men from a wide variety of perspectives, as well as several non-bi male contributions. As in most anthologies, there is some unevenness in quality of writing, but overall the book is quite readable and successful in its attempt to present the actual lived experience of the bi man in all its complexity.