Four Loves (C. Lewis Signature Classic): A captivating journey through the different forms of love

Ordered for my workplace book rack, arrived in perfect condition.

I bought it only because I had mislaid my own copy of 30 years as I wanted to read it again. I liked the paper back because it was light and the print easy to follow. As I had been reconmmended a prayerful book of similar love centered themes, I wanted to juxtapose it with CsLewis' broader view of love within a spiritual ambit. I was not disappointed, I loved it and read it all again with the same pleasure I received 30 years ago. I take my hat off to Lewis, as he is just as valid today as he was when he wrote it and his description of human reactions ring true to my ageing ears. It deals with complex issues in an easy, convincing manner. I love it and keep it to hand.

Love is a subject that is as old and as deep as the sea. Much has been said about it but still much more will be said about it, so it seems. It is a subject inexhaustible and captivating of our hearts. It is something that we crave to have and to give. It seems to be inseparable from our being. If we are deprived of love, psychology tells us that we are screwed. Mary Shelley’s Frankenstein is such a tragic story. Love seems to have such healing power. But Lewis warns that love, having become a god, becomes a demon; carried in them are the seeds of hatred. Its nature and power we do not seem to fully understand. Lewis helps us categorise what he calls “natural loves”. He distinguishes it in two different levels. (1) He distinguishes Gift-love, Need-love and pleasures of Appreciation. (2) The four loves as the title of the book is called: Affection, Friendship, Eros and Charity. Lewis is patient in defining each for us. These definitions are most interesting as language is the first step to enable thinking. The nature of love at these two dimensions can cross, giving a matrix of love with many nuances. Yes, it is a complicated matter. From our own experience, it is not hard to see that we can idealise love which can go very wrong. We hold out with such high hope of love as if it is answer to our troubles, but only to find ourselves cheated or vexed by it when it does not deliver its promise. Lewis describes these loves for us, what they are supposed to be and how they could go wrong. We can relate to those descriptions in our own personal lives – this is where Lewis is at his best. He warns us how loves can sour. Why? Where have they gone wrong? His book tries to prove the maxim that “love begins to be a demon the moment he begins to be a god. This is where it goes wrong. Therefore to keep love sweet, we need to understand that it originates from God and in turn, where its real splendour lies. - The loves prove that they are unworthy to take the place of God by the fact that they cannot even remain themselves and do what they promise to do without God’s help (p.144). - Even for their own sakes the loves must submit to be second things if they are to remain the things they want to be (P. 144). - By subjecting their authority to His, gives [a human heart] for the first time a firm basis … Left to themselves they either vanish or become demons (p.144). - [We need to tell our loved ones] that your love all along had a secret reservation – ‘under God’ or ‘so far as a higher Love permits’… Indeed, a real disagreement on this issue should make itself felt early enough to prevent a marriage or a Friendship from existing at all (p.152). - We must try to relate the human activities called ‘loves’ to that Love which is God a little more precisely than we have yet done (p.152). - The doctrine that God was under no necessity to create is not a piece of dry scholastic speculation. It is essential (p.153). God , who needs nothing, loves into existence wholly superfluous creatures in order that He may love and perfect them (p.154). Divine Gift-love – Love Himself working in a man – is wholly disinterested and desires what is simply best for the beloved…. Divine Gift-love in the man enables him to love what is not naturally lovable… Finally, by a high paradox, God enables men to have a Gift-love towards Himself (p. 155). [We] can freely offer it back to Him…. That such a Gift-love comes by Grace and should be called Charity, everyone will agree (p. 156). - [This point is so true.] There is no good applying to Heaven for earthly comfort. Heaven can give heavenly comfort; no other kind. And earth cannot give earthly comfort either. There is no earthly comfort in the long run (p. 168). - All that was true love in them was, even on earth, far more His than ours, and ours only because His (p. 168). By loving Him more than them we shall love them more than we now do… God is our true Beloved. While clearly beneficial to have read this book, there is a sense that it could have been better and more precise to the point. There is also a sense that it could have been further developed in some areas. Furthermore, Lewis’s description of Friendship could be read as sexist by many these days, and he probably would have been forced to apologise!! Just be clear that I am not offended, because I think he is sincerely describing what it was in his days. Reading Lewis these days is a breath of fresh air, to hear the almost forbidden language which gets us think if we have progressed or regressed. I am grateful for the publisher to make this classic available to us at an affordable price. This time my copy is of a smooth edge instead of a rugged one which sometimes happens with this series.

Good quality and good packaging

Great book by CS Lewis on the different types of love. Brilliant for anyone seeking to deepend their understanding of various types of attachment and love as categorised by CS Lewis. For anyone new to CS Lewis, like myself, may be helpful to note that the book is written from a Christian perspective, which I personally rather liked despite not ascribing to the faith myself. I personally found that the Christian references were relevent to the content of the book, and really weren't overbearing or overly intrusive to the extent that it became annoying. See my five star recommendation! I would go so far as to say this book should be highly recommended as essential reading for anyone over the age of 16 as a good introductory text to the topic.

Great book by CS Lewis on the Four Loves. Really helpful to read.

Sadly, I found the language style quite hard to follow.

Would highly recommend this book for those seeking to explore the true meaning of love. A great reference book, too, to dip in again and again, after a few full readings.

Love reading this book over and over again because it's truthful and clearly organized

In this classic C.S. Lewis, the celebrated author of 'the Chronicles of Narnia,' reflects on love. He begins by observing that at birth we all start out with need-love, needing gift-love. Gift-love is the kind of love the creator shows to the created, in the process of creating and taking care of the created. It is the love a mother bestows on her newborn child. In contrast, need-love is the condition of poverty that every created being begins with at birth. I feel this quote sums up the point Mr. Lewis was making about need-love, 'Man approaches god most nearly when he is in one sense least like God. For what can be more unlike than fullness and need, sovereignty and humility, righteousness and penitence.' Mr. Lewis continues with a brief synopsis of things that we can show love for; these include others, nature, country, and finally, the transcendent creator. Dissecting each, he illustrates that love of nature, patriotism, etc. are inadequate receptacles of our love. Next, Mr. Lewis looks at the different kinds of love which include affection, philios, eros, and charity or agape. Affection includes the love of parents for their child, love of our pets, etc. Philios is the love between friends. Eros is the love between two lovers. Finally, charity is the love of the creator towards the created and the return of that love by the created toward both the creator and creation. Of all the loves, Mr. Lewis holds charity or agape in the highest esteem. All other loves fall short of Agape, as Mr. Lewis states in this quote, 'The (other) loves prove that they are unworthy to take the place of god by the fact that they cannot even remain themselves and do what they promise to do without god's help.' They are merely images of this 'charity or agape' which is both immanent and transcendent of creation. By placing our faith in images we are placing faith in what is transient and temporary. Yet, the love that is immanent and transcendent of creation is all encompassing, therefore imageless, and thus beyond human conceptual understanding.. To understand love in all of its aspects we need both the images of affection, philios, and eros as well as the transcendent for the images are stepping stones on our way up to this feeling of all encompassing love. Here, Mr. Lewis makes an important point about love when he states, 'To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. We shall draw nearer to God, not by trying to avoid the sufferings inherent in all loves, but by accepting them and offering them to him; throwing away all defensive armour.' We have to feel love for the images in order to understand and feel the love of the transcendent. Yet, we cannot become entranced by our love for the images of the love immanent and transcendent of creation, because they like we are merely temporary, here one day, gone the next.. Mr. Lewis concludes with this point, 'Only those into which love himself has entered will ascend to love himself. We were made for god. Only by being in some respect like him, only by being a manifestation of his beauty, loving-kindness, wisdom or goodness, has any earthly beloved excited our love.' Most of the time when we think about love we think about it in its aspect of eros. Mr. Lewis compelled me to contemplate love in all of its different manifestations, and through this reflection, to see that love is much more complex than what we frequently assume it to be. It is for these reasons that I consider this a classic read worth pondering.

I love the way C.S. Lewis writes, but I was very disappointed with his ideas on humans. In his book “The Four Loves” in the section of Affection, he mentions 3 times so far that humans are simply a type of species and are mammals. This goes against God’s Word! I used to look up to C.S. Lewis but now I have to be careful not to listen to him anymore. Just opening the door to the idea of people being a type of species totally diminishes the importance of eternity and the value of human life. The Bible says that God made us in His image, that He breathed life into us, that He sent His Son to die on the cross for our sins, that He gave us dominion over the animals.. etc etc. As Christians we must be careful of what we let into our hearts! Disappointed in this book but thankful for God’s Word and His truth! God bless.

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Texto excepcional, profundo, com nuances e poesia inserida em sua estrutura. Comentários e citações deslumbrantes. Lewis transita entre os significados do Amor, nos trazendo pela perspicácia a compreensão da natureza humana, sua esperança, sem deixar de desvelar as tentações enrustidas em nosso cotidiano!