If We're Together, Why Do I Feel So Alone?: How to Build Intimacy with an Emotionally Unavailable Partner Paperback – January 3, 2017

A 5 star read, very informative straight to the point literary with very little extra commentary, just enough to get a point across then move on. Plenty of extra resource information at the end to aid and assist further if you desire.

Content is something I haven't heard before. Although she says it's for everyone, it is definitely written for women.

Very insightful and non-biased. Highly recommend for anyone that is undecided on whether or not that they will remain in a relationship.

Eager to read this book too!. Quick delivery.

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Before wasting your health, time, money, sanity, and opportunities on becoming an in-house psychotherapist for an emotionally unavailable “partner” — listen to the millions, literally millions, of ppl SHOUTING AT YOU - to turn back / run / get ahold of YOURSELF.Before you spend one scintilla of effort on THEIR ISSUES, figure out why are you are w/an emotionally unavailable person in the first place - and if it’s been long-term, why have you tolerated such absence/ abuse for so long.Also, ask why you think you’re the singular special snowflake - that’s going to affect this miraculous transformation of emotional availability in the other person? … b/c, you assuredly will not…No amount of prayer, magic, self-help books, candles, incense, smudging, therapy, coaches, rosaries, shamans, or karmic progression will change the other person.All lasting positive change has to come from w/in, ultimately. If they’re not aware of their bs and doing the work - nothing u find in here will help.Save the money and figure out how to get out of the situationship - stat! … at minimum, buy a book on boundaries, instead, and go from there (towards the exit!)

I felt this book shed interesting light, and quite possibly was more accurate than not. However as a male reader I was put off because this book was written for the female audience, plain and simple. Dr Parker indicates early on that the information in this book is not gender-specific. I will not argue that point, however there were countless (and I mean so many that it's not funny) passages that included the phrases " your guy", "your man", and "your husband". Every single exemplification was written from and for the female perspective. It was always the male that was the "emotionally unavailable" partner in the relationship. Eventually I found it impossible not to roll my eyes when encountering such gender bias in the book. It seems the author either seems to think either men are the only emotionally unavailable gender, or that men just don't care enough about feeling alone to want to read a book with such a title. I was not disappointed with the content of the material as much as I was with the slant on the gender bias.

If a person is attracted to people who are emotional unavailable, they are best served by looking internally: what is it about me that means I am attracted to emotionally unavailable people? Am I emotionally available?It is easy for a person to appear emotionally available. Perhaps they talk a lot about emotions, for instance, but without embodying them (allowing themselves to feel their emotions). Their over-vulnerability is usually an unconscious way of getting their needs met.Parker encourages people to externalize rather than be introspective, and as such she does a big disservice to the mental health field.As another reviewer noted, the reinforcement of gender stereotypes here is appalling.