Exhausted Wives, Bewildered Husbands: Why Your Marriage Is Hurting, and How to Blossom as a Couple

Easy-read. Knowledgeable. Helpful, I really like the author.

For a 100 page book, this packs a punch; if you are determined to figure out what YOU are accountable for in your failing relationship, you will benefit from this book. I am very familiar with attachment theory, and this book takes the straightforward approach of a primer - frankly, I think that’s all you really need to clearly understand what the heck is going on with yourself. The anecdotal examples herein clearly demonstrate different sides of relationship conflict and do so broadly enough that you understand different scenarios from your experience. If you are looking for a way to point fingers at your partner, or if you or your partner have a personality disorder such as NPD or BPD, this isn’t for you. This book is about personal accountability and learning how to participate in your relationship differently; the hope is that by you showing up differently, a healthy and receptive partner will respond differently. However, the end of the day, if you make these changes with integrity and your partner doesn’t respond, then you know you have taken full accountability for your part in the dance, and it’s time to move on.

It's curious to see the way both sexes think side by side. I often feel like an androgynous middle. My brain views all woman thought as circular and intuitive, and men's more like a dart being thrown at a dart board. Guys getting more immediately to the center of a problem, and women adding insights or small details that help complete some of the subtle pieces of the picture.I've not thought about the way they function separately or together in a relationship. Nor see many healthy examples of it(esp with females).It's an interesting read. I need some time to think about it, may add more to the review later.

Adam does an excellent job covering the topic of communication in marriage. While the book is a quick read, it is packed with information that anyone of either sex can use to improve their relationship.Adam encourages readers to be vulnerable with their partners and state their needs. This doesn’t mean vulnerable as in cry your eyes out or weak, it means to be honest and share what you need in your relationship.Adam breaks down what he sees in his job and provides readers with background knowledge for why communication can breakdown. He writes in a manner that is easy to understand.I encourage anyone to read this book. Even if your relationship is thriving, Adam may provide more knowledge to help your relationship to continue to grow.

Supposed to help people with insecurity in their relationships. First part describes the insecure person and their problems, this seems aimed at secure people to help them understand. Then the latter part, aimed at the insecure person, that is supposed to give solutions, is only geared to insecure men. No solutions are offered for an insecure woman. Example couples are: insecure man and secure woman; and insecure man and insecure woman. And even with the couple who are both insecure, all the instructions for action are directed to the man. This book has no help for an insecure woman in a relationship with a secure man. Which could be okay, not all books have to be for everyone, but it's marketed to all people with insecurity.

This book put words to things that have worked in my own marriage - it’s a hack I wish I had obtained many years ago! Would have saved a lot of time/confusion.

Can only say that it would have been good to read this book about 15 years ago. Quick read and should be on many family bookshelves

So well written and insightful. Gives tangible things you can do to move forward and change. Thank you.