Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

Great book filled with lots of lessons and teachings for you and your special person.

This marriage book doesn't bash either side. Women and men have different needs. According to Dr. Eggerichs, they hear vocal and body language differently. Understanding the difference is the secret behind better communication and "Love & Respect" given one to another. It is sound, down-to-earth information that truly is a NEW perspective. Even men will listen. But this book may work if only one spouse reads and applies what is found.Past marriage suggestions typically push the man to changing his nature and becoming more feminine in response to his love seeking wife. This author points out that God didn't make man feminine, so why should he change? He does offer many suggestions as to how to understand what a wife is searching for and how best to communicate to her needs and feelings. The opposite is true for women. God didn't make women to have more body than mind need, as men. Why try to make one turn into the other? The answer, according to "Love & Respect" is the husband learning to see the woman's need for love needs, and for the wife noting the man's needs and different ways of coping.Thus, mutual understanding is as important as mutual communication. But...communication must be in a form recognized by the spouse. This need-meeting takes into consideration not only Biblical principals, but new scientific brain function evidence. They seem to go hand in hand.This is not simply a Christian approach, although Dr. Eggerichs pulls no punches about his own beliefs and pulls scripture to back many statements. Also the book is endorsed and supported by Dr. Dobson and "Focus on the Family."Having remarried after becoming a widower, I have duel opportunity to look at the legitimacy of what is written. This is solid marriage relationship instruction. Highly recommended, at any age.A PERFECT WEDDING GIFT FOR THE NEW BRIDE & GROOM, any faith.My wife and I love the large print, due to aging eyes, but it also makes the book pages turn faster.Part One: THE CRAZY CYCLE defines the problem of communication between man and female in a new light. No blame, just different.Part Two: THE ENERGIZING CYCLE is the meat. It takes you thorough the female needs of Closeness,Openness,Understanding,Peacemaking,Loyalty,Esteem. Then it looks at the male's needs of Conquest,Hierarchy,Authority,Insight,Relationship,Sexuality."Not wrong, just different." Part 2 may be all you need to read.Part Three: THE REWARDED CYCLE concludes the pink and blue differences and opportunity to improve any marriage, even those not in danger. Includes a generous appendix of things to do together to help your love and respect grow.Also recommended is a set of DVDs with this author presenting the material of this book. Good for groups or couples. Not pricey when you consider the excellent results. The author is quite a humerus, entertaining presenter.A MUST for church, family counselor, and public library shelves.

I love this book because it removes the mystery of communication between men and women in a huge way. I've heard all my life how utterly different men and women are, and I've heard much more about how men seem to be more lacking in understanding. I used to joke and make comments about 'poor men' which I'm sure was immediately picked up as being disrespectful. I didn't really understand what I was doing as I was still very young, but I'm glad I eventually dropped that habit. I give the credit to God because I believe His Spirit was at work in my heart changing the way I treated and thought about guys, without my understand why. I went through some painful, lonely seasons of life where I didn't know what to say to certain people present in my life, all I felt led to do was keep my mouth closed because everything I WANTED to say would have been disrespectful and offensive. I'm glad for the wisdom of God that kept me and delivered me from such a disrespectful attitude, when I didn't even know what was going on.This book was recommended to me by a woman who became my close friend on the missions field. She was a very wise woman who was married with children, both she and her husband in the ministry, with many years of marriage already behind them, and their relationship just "glowed". There was something about them that just drew me in. I am at the age where I could meet someone and be married within a short period of time, and she was so loving and patient in explaining many of these principles and why they were so, then said if I could read any book on marriage this would be the one to read.I recommend this book for everyone. I am still single, with no marriage partner even on the radar, but I feel this book has been so helpful in explaining the inner workings of both men and women that anyone old enough to consider having a boyfriend or girlfriend SHOULD read this book. It really removes the mystery of how to talk to people and proves over and over again that doing things in a loving and respectful manner will bring rewards for everyone. I especially recommend this book to those that have not yet graduated high school. This is quite the education! And will bless them far more than any academics they can learn at school. These are life lessons of an incalculable nature. Priceless.Thanks again to Dr. Eggerichs for blessing us with his experience and the wisdom he was given.

Great book! Recommend to everyone. And great price on Amazon

Really great book! It is an eye opener. I wouldn’t advise taking this heart to heart or word for word. I’d use this as a guidance. I love the Bible and research topics that are added. There are many discussions or examples that totally pinpoint my husband and myself. There are also times where it mentions a percentage men blah blah blah and most women blah blah blah but it’s the opposite which help me come to an understanding of why I am react a certain way or why my husband reacts a certain way. This book is mainly geared towards the respect a man needs so although us women can gain a lot of insight sometimes it may feel things that are being said is bias which may be true but like I said use this as a guidance and just ask your mate how they feel about that particular topic. Easy to read and understand. Great gift!

The best marriage book ever (so far). Biblical. I bought it, read it, loved it. Learned a lot. Then my husband lent it to a friend. Never got it back. So I ordered another one because I like to read my books again. Now my husband is reading it (finally! Been begging him to read it for 2 years lol). The quality of the book itself is excellent.

This book is literally the answer of so many of my prayers. The answers that I have been searching for years I came across in this book.Thanks Amazon for delivering a fresh and a good book in right condition. Just love it.

This book is amazing. Our pastor recommended this book to us. And we r glad he did. Very helpful learning about relationships and marriage. This book is going on our selves, it’s a keeper!I recommended it if you are going into relationship, and married couple!Perfect gift book ❤️ after you read it 😉

Este libro puede cambiar tu vida y salvar tu matrimonio. Siempre y cuando tengas un marido, que en el fondo te quiere y no te maltrata.

This book has been a great inspiration to help us in our relationship to understand how to meet each other’s needs in how we communicate. Highly recommended.