The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever

I bought this book for my live-in boyfriend who is dragging his feet about getting married. Needless to say, we haven't always gone about things the right way and our relationship hasn't exactly been perfect. So, I've read a LOT of relationship books lately. I decided I had better check it out before I handed over something that would overwhelm him if it was going to be THE book I gave him. And this is, by far, the best and most practical book I've read yet. It was just as beneficial a read for me as I think it would be for him.Let me also just say that I am not a good reader- 20 pages at a time at BEST. This book was written in lay terms and the pages flew by. I read 270 pages in 3 days. It was really clear and really engaging. It was an easy read that I looked forward to. Don't get discouraged by one of the first chapters with all the brain and chemical stuff. It's only one chapter and the rest of the book is NOT like that. I plan to get it for many of the men I know for these reasons:It is reaffirming for men. It says that most therapists don't have proper couple's training and licensing and that they insist that men act more like women. That is why men feel so frustrated. So, it gives real and practical suggestions and suggests that men approach a marriage from the same perspective that a man would approach his job- an area he generally feels pretty competent in. I think most men will like and can relate to this.I found the author to be very pro-woman in his approach without demeaning men. He placed a high and equal value on both partners in the relationship. He just suggested that both need to reevaluate the way they look at things and that a change in attitude can go a long way.Also guys, I found that he touched on every subject that I can think women take issue with or are confused by. As I was reading his suggestions, I think I would be truly happy with the outcome if they were applied; not expecting perfection, but recongnizing the effort. Don't ignore ANY sections because they are all things that are important to women- even the ones he spends only a paragraph on. Basically, that was what I interpreted his approach to be- to help you understand the way we view things and why we make your life miserable because of it. ;)If you are going to try any relationship help book, I would suggest this one for men (but also valuable for women). You won't feel overwhelmed, it's practical, and it is written in a way you will enjoy reading it.

I bought this book for my manly man husband. It just arrived today.I would put the state of our marriage as pretty desperate. I didn't hold out much hope....I all but had one foot out the door. I certainly didn't think that one book could change things and as I have only just now read the book myself, don't know that it will.It did REALLY set my mind at ease for the first time in a very long time. It explains so.much about the difference in the way men and women approach marriage ... and what specifically men can do to work past those differences.I am a strong, independent woman. Not clingy or on constant fix-up projects to emasculated my husband. This book is VERY pro male ....but I found nothing in it offensive to my sensibilities as a woman. It does go into lengthy, scientific detail about the biological differences between men and women. I have an MA in Anthropology. It's true. If the biological facts offend those whose social conditioning had taught otherwise ... look for a different book. Different means different. Not inferior.But, I digress......the book was helpful to ME (my husband is out of town and hasn't read it) because it helped me to understand that all of the aspects of his character, which I interpreted as his being just a really rotten human being who doesn't love and respect me .... are pretty typical clueless male traits ....it really took my feelings of hopelessness and personal distress WAY down.Now that I understand....if my husband reads the book and follows through ... which I think he will because he SAYS he loves me and wants to change to improve things ... I can see this being a very readable and straightforward means.Although the book is pro-male ...it tells men exactly what to do ....step by step to make your wife happy ... and is quite insistent that making your wife happy is the means to being happy.FYI ....it does contain a great deal of anecdotal and personal information. If that's distracting, perhaps the book isn't for you. We haven't read any self help books, so I can't comparatively comment.If it works as well as I hope it does, I will give it five stars.Well done, Dr. Hartmann.

I bought this book for my husband with intention of making him aware that his attitude needs to be changed. I asked him not to just read but study the book by critically analyzing it. It was extremely challenge to him to start reading the book because a man like him does not need this book - he already was a "mister perfect". As he finally started and progressing (of course tremendously slow) on reading, I noticed big changes on him. He was getting more open minded. The best book

I have read many books on relationships and when ever we have problems in our marriage we go to marriage counselling, but I have never learned such worthwhile skills as I have in this book. This book has taught me to celebrate our manhood, our masculinity and be 100 percent a man and then use our skills to help our wife be 100 percent woman and help her to be as content, protected and loved as she can. I have learned a lot of stuff about myself and that of my wife and dispelled many an incorrect presumption, many of which were blocks in my marriage.I will re-read this book now, to go over what it has said. Ps I hardly ever re-read a book, but this one has so much to offer and I want to fully grasp it. I want more than anything to embrace all that I am, and then to bring my fullness to my marriage , with skill and knowledge.Ps I have been implementing this stuff over the last two weeks of reading this book and there are substantial improvements in our marriage already. Bring on the good times. Looking forward to being more of a man in my marriage and my wife more of a woman.Exciting timesMark raymond 42 married for ten years

This book is just plain insulting to wives! It should be titled "How to keep your wife happy so she meets all your needs." One would think that to write a book about winning your wife's heart, you would actually research women's needs, but the author starts off by explaining how he used the posts of hundreds of MEN on his website to come up with his plan. He encourages men to look at marriage as a job and actually instructs them to make a "job description chart" with chores like "praised her," "told her I adore her," "told her I understand her," and spots to check off each one daily. I would be horrified to know that my husband is sitting and listening to me - following Mr. Haltzman's rules of making eye contact and saying "I understand" just so he can "meet my payroll" and keep me happy in the marriage! At one point he even refers to the "useful and healthy use of porn." He also has the nerve to say that most marriage counselling is useless (except his own, of course) and that couples should save their money and purchase his book instead!Nowhere does he mention actually connecting with your wife in order to meet her needs.If you really want to have a deeper, loving connection to your wife, try reading these books instead:For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff FeldhahnThe Five Love Languages by Gary ChapmanConnecting With Your Wife by Barbara RosbergIf Only He Knew by Gary Smalley52 Things Wives Need From Their Husbands: What Husbands Can Do to Build a Stronger Marriage by Jay PayleitnerBecoming Soul Mates by Les and Leslie ParrottNormally we donate our used books to the local book sale for charity. This one will go exactly where it belongs - in the garbage!

Everyone is seeming to rave about this book - but sadly I find it a load of tosh {bollocks}. Whilst the advice given is sensible, clear and uses a step wise approach, the premise of many of the assumptions are flawed and based upon gender stereotypes. For example - when she speaks, do not move and listen to what she saying. ... - so what happens when she chooses not to speak?? Turn off the TV and try to spend time with her (this assumes each and every man is sat watching telly - and that his dearly beloved is yearning for his attention / affection. Clearly this misses out women who are decidedly wanting to disengage their time from any meaningful dialogue and whom themselves, have chosen to watch tv and not communicate. The book is helpful if your relationship fits the mould of the stereotype, and for those that need this - it is useful to have this 'manual' ready to refer to. However - we live in the 21st C. Women's thoughts and desires are as diverse as ever - and men; well not all men work the same nor do they all harbour the same interests or indeed - have the same problems/issues of the 'typical man' but none such exists anymore. I really felt that the assumptions made to start each point off were flawed and do not reflect the modern realities of many people - not mine, certainly and for that reason, I could not recommend anyone buying this with praise. If it were considerably cheaper - then perhaps of the few tidbits that maybe helpful; but as it is, sadly not in my view.

Hahah..I am sure this is a great book. I gifted to my husband as the anniversary gift and he hasn't read it beyond its forward but I read some of it, and liked it. very practical, very tactical. smart book.