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In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts is a critically acclaimed, #1 international bestseller by Dr. Gabor Matรฉ that transforms how we understand addiction. Combining cutting-edge research with compassionate case studies, it reveals addiction as rooted in trauma and offers a humane, whole-person approach to recovery. With a 4.7-star rating from over 6,000 readers, this book is a must-have for professionals, caregivers, and anyone seeking deeper insight into addiction and healing.
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| Customer Reviews | 4.7 out of 5 stars 6,339 Reviews |
D**S
I haven't reviewed this book?
I thought I had, especially as the best book I've read in two or three decades. This is one remarkable, almost entirely unique, (I'll say it now) masterpiece by Gabor Mate. I told him so in an email to him. Few books really ought be required reading, but this is one of them. Mate, not least himself a behavioral addict, understands addictions like no one I've ever read or ever listened to. He gets it. And he gets near to the roots of addiction as anyone ever has. And then he critiques ridiculous public policy stuck in the Middle Ages. The Middle Ages can be excused for lack of access to data, writing materials, etc., etc., while modern nations cannot be excused for such reasons. But nations, led by persons addicted to power and wealth and a hundred other behaviors and substances, insist more on character assassination, placing of self-blame and then punishment I doubt Torquemada ever contemplated on such a vast scale--when 50% or so of America's extremely high prison population consists of addicts (now ex-addicts the hard way if they can't get drugs in prisons) whose violations of law were so minor as to have warranted no more (indeed, no less) than admission to places who think it a better idea to help addicts as opposed to punishing them. But when traditional "values" continue to prevail...outcome is to be expected--draconian at all times pretty much no matter the problem. One wonders just how far backward a society or civilization can move before collapsing of its own gluttony for punishment. Addiction is a sociological problem, not a psychological problem, or at worst a mix of the two. Mate understands this perfectly and has told Canadian officials as much insofar as Mate is Canadian transplanted from Hungary where he was born a Jew about the time WWII got going. I've put it more strongly than Mate does; he's nicer about it, though I doubt he's any more patient. But only a relatively small part of the book is devoted to discussion of public policy. Mostly, the book tells the stories of individual addicts Mate knows or has known (prior to their suicides or murders) on Vancouver's less swank east side. He writes of Native Canadians, who like their American kin, are more prone to addiction, not least for the way they've been regarded by the dominant races and classes. It's not as though they're more prone because native! One reads such crap all the time, however, and so Mate is refreshing as mountain air after years in a stinking city. What he writes was for me as I read utterly familiar, as though he'd taken the words from my mouth. He didn't, but just said it for me and far better than I could ever have said it. Plus, he's an actual physician with access to actual data as well as to other experts on the topics of addiction and psychology, and sociology too. This book is also science at it's best, in relation to the world beyond the theoretical. There's actual evidence, quite a lot of it, in support of Mate's claims, up to and including studies of the human brain, of what endorphins are, of how they are released and taken up in and by the brain, of how not all people really are created equal (politically in the blind eyers of the law perhaps, but not psychologically or physiologically. And not economically either). They're not, as any dope, so to speak, who thought about it for 30 seconds could not help but conclude. Addicts are sufferers in ways many of us can't imagine, while on the other hand lots of us can very well imagine and then indulge for ourselves, whether in substances or repetitive behaviors, either or both in hope of relief, not least from societal judgment. The stories are, well...cliche because like most cliche's so true...heartbreaking. Some terrible, terrible things go on all around us, a lot of it happening to children who will grow up to become addicts. (Then we'll play the blame game; namely, blame them for having made poor choices in life. What nonsense. Such game-playing ought be called what it really is, a cop out, a refusal to take responsibility for the world in which we all dwell. Easier to blame the victim for his or her plight. Poof, gone, what problem? Oh him? He deserves whatever happens, as does everyone. "One gets what one really wants." There's no end to such ""common wisdom" that dispense with reality giving nary a thought, let alone another idea. Such are customs and traditions born of ideologies.) Mate would change our systems of beliefs, as would all who tell us the truth refusing to allow us to continue to hide behind curtains consisting of myths. Obviously, I couldn't possibly recommend this book more as absolutely essential reading and on a topic slightly wider than the one advertised. Yes, it's about addicts and their various addictions, but deeper down it's a commentary on the state of our collective being. We've been pretty bad and don't seem much interested in being better, I might add. Instead we're building more prisons and fewer schools, clinics, hospitals or half-way houses liberals don't want in their backyards. We're becoming yet more hypocritical, not less so. Mate exposes us as much as the addicted, perhaps more so. I won't misstate him: He's firmly against addiction, spends much of his life trying to help people out of their addictions as he's helped himself out of his own. He doesn't dismiss personal responsibility, not in the least. Millions of addicts wouldn't make for much in the way of a functioning civilization either. Mate is tough on his patients, sometimes overly so, as he writes. But my favorite part, if you will, is when he writes of "authenticity," specifically of that he's discovered in that east side community, where addicts and hangers on, and other of society's outcasts speak and act with an authenticity unknown in society at large. I suppose that when you've hit bottom there's nothing more to be frightened of, even if fear is often at the root of or the cause of mental illnesses, whether or not addictions are regarded as mental illnesses. (I personally think so.) But there is no room, space or time for pretense among those for whom he cares enough to devote so much of his time and effort. Could we EVER use some of that authenticity in our daily dealings, in our politicians claiming to be "leaders," especially in business gone global, and most especially in foolish media where myths go to be nourished and enriched. Addicts have a lot of important things to say, far more worth listening to than some glorified, media-hyped pol, movie star, whatnot otherwise idiot. I mean the hardcore addict of whom Mate writes and treats as best he can and in more ways than as physician. When he writes of their authenticity I can just feel what he means. I KNOW what he means, also in part for the lack of it I discover or rediscover every day in my own dealings with others and in listening to media, to those who speak through media, who have ready access to media and who are looking out for their own desperate neediness first and foremost. The hardcore addict is far more honest, far more in touch with just being human, which is to be weak at the knees for all time while never ever allowed just to say so. Gabor Mate is philosopher too, one who will make you think, including about what is right and what is wrong, about authentic values, as opposed to those "family" ones always on the lips of politicians and so many of their backers, all of them clueless as to the actual nature of morality, never mind answers. It's not a self-help book though it does help a self whether or not a self asks for help, and it's not cure-all book, in the event anyone still imagines there could ever be such a thing. Mate, like a few others, Erickson, Chomsky, Marcuse, et al. and just to name some of the more recent, has a firm grip on what really matters, and so this book is about more than some junkies and their personal problems along with his own problems or even just all of our problems. It's about all those things, but by its tone--which is NEVER patronizing--and by its insight and revelation the book is also speculative philosophy in an at least one very fine tradition of non-tradition as practiced by those just mentioned and a few others, all of whom ought be essential reading for any who claims to be a citizen of the world.
H**S
It left me feeling a mix of emotions. It's not an easy read, but it's a necessary one.
Eye-Opening and Compassionate Mate, a doctor who's battled his own behavioral addiction, dives deep into the world of addiction. He gets it, man. He truly understands the addicts he treats, many of them from Vancouver's rough Eastside. Unlike some experts who toss around statistics, Mate tells their stories. Heartbreaking stories, of lives ravaged by addiction, often rooted in childhood trauma. Not a Blame Game This book isn't about pointing fingers. Mate argues that addiction is a sociological and psychological problem, not a moral failing. We, as a society, are quick to demonize addicts and throw them in prison, a system Mate sees as draconian and ineffective. He advocates for treatment and compassion, not punishment. Science and Authenticity Mate backs up his arguments with science, studies of the brain and how addiction hijacks it. But this book is more than just facts and figures. It's about the human experience. Mate talks about the authenticity he finds in the addict community, a stark contrast to the phoniness of media and some politicians. A Call to Action "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts" isn't just about addicts, it's about all of us. It challenges us to be more genuine, to look at the root causes of problems, and to build a more compassionate society. It's a wake-up call, and frankly, we could all use a good jolt sometimes. The book isn't without flaws. Some parts are a bit repetitive, and the focus on the hardcore addicts can feel overwhelming at times. But those are minor quibbles. This book is a must-read for anyone who wants to understand addiction, including those struggling with it themselves. It's not a self-help book in the traditional sense, but it offers a powerful and insightful look at the human condition.
R**I
Some VERY Important Messages - Even Outside of the "Normal" Addiction Arena
My reading of this book concurs with nearly everything I've seen in the other five star reviews; so in the interest of not being repetitive, mine will be short and limited to comments and impressions not prominent in other reviews. Two such impressions stick out - one regarding the neurology of addiction; and the second, related to the first, is with respect to early brain development. My interest in this book was piqued when Stefan Molyneux recommended it in one of his podcasts. I expected that the book would do more than merely introduce the reader to the latest findings in the science of addiction; that it would also shed light on some of the larger pathological brain conditions that we don't normally think of as "addiction" per se - those conditions that lead to behaviors that we actually admire and respect. I was not disappointed one bit. In particular, in Chapter 22, Poor Substitutes for Love: Behavior Addictions and Their Origins, the author deftly describes how addictive prone brain circuitry can drive an individual to obsessions with accomplishments (pride), wealth (greed), admiration (vanity), power (lust), etc. Mate explains that the cascade of neurological events that lead to these addictions are identical to those that lead to the lesser respected ones (such as gambling, sex, food) as well as the most stigmatized, criminalized addictions (illegal drug use). Only the trigger differs. The brain conditions underneath the compulsions are the same. The author does a good job explaining the neuro-mechanisms, but does not go into very much detail, which is understandable since the book is already pretty long. A good compliment in this area would be The Compass of Pleasure by David Linden. How do we address and/or correct these brain conditions? The author's answer is on the mark. In early chapters, the author lays the foundation. First and foremost, the addiction-prone brain (genetics aside, since we cannot control our genes) results from insufficient feel-good hormones and neurotransmitters, and too many of the stress induced chemicals very early on in our lives. The latest research in epigenetics and perinatal care point directly to the nurturing environment from conception through the first year of life as the crucial period of brain development. This period will ultimately determine whether or not we later in life feel the pull toward compulsive behaviors/drugs to compensate for the dearth of "love", neurologically/physiologically speaking, we experienced in the womb and in infancy. Again, since the book is already long, Gabor Mate does not have the luxury of going into a deep description of the latest research. As a companion piece for this purpose, one could consider Neurobiology and the Development of Human Morality by Darcia Narvaez. (By the way, I commend the both Gabor Mate and Darcia Narvaez for bravely making this sound and objective analysis of the topic, as it would certainly be regarded as somewhat offensive to those - I'm thinking of the popular Sheryl Sandberg "Lean In" sentiments as an example - who resist putting perinatal care at the very top of our list of cultural priorities.) The hallmark of a good book for me is one which I find enlightening and enjoyable AS I'm reading it, as well as how much I keep thinking about the contents AFTER I read it. This book did both, in addition to inspiring me to learn more about brain science, epigenetics, and moral development.
B**A
Interesting and fairly easy to read
I liked that it was fairly easy to understand. It was interesting to learn about addiction and the hold it has on people and what can be done .
S**N
Intense
I started reading this book after a former student of mine overdosed. I wanted to somehow make sense of what she was experiencing and why it ultimately led to her death at 20 years old. And understand my deceased brotherโs addiction. I also wanted to further understand my own addictive tendencies and learn more about how the brain works. It took me a long time to read this. I found I could only read a chapter at a time to fully digest all of the information. And it also is highly emotional as Gabor Mate describes in depth his medical relationship to addicts and all of their struggles as well as battling his own behavioral addiction. It delves into trauma and the phrase โhungry ghostsโ. I found myself sometimes feeling hopeless for the people he treats and all that suffer with addiction and all of society. Gabor Mate is a powerful story teller. He drives home the point we need to have compassion and not judgment. I learned a lot about trauma, harm reduction, the failed political โwar on drugsโ, racism, and the complicated topic of drug legalization and criminalization. There is also some counsel in the latter chapters on how to help oneself. His personal story woven into the book adds a sense of understanding and empathy towards his patients.
G**E
the real description of addiction
This book is a true description of addiction. It goes through both psychological and neurological changes that lead a person to addiction. But it also has a prescription for altering the path and ease the pain. Clinicians need to read this book but beware, it is not all rosy as you will have to open your eyes to what you bring to the table. Everyone who deals with addiction, the person, the family, the friend, the clinician, the policemen, the lawyers, judges, politicians and anyone else NEED to read this book.
L**N
A book that explains addiction in sensical terms and removes the many myths that surround this non-baffling affliction
This was the first book I read that gave me a more scientific and sensical approach to addiction. Since reading this book, I have read many more journal articles that support Gabor Mate's explanation of addiction. Contrary to many of the pop-culture views that addiction is either a moral failing, an effect of character defects, a spiritual disease, a lack of discipline, or laziness and stupidity, Gabor Mate's book and research points to a simple and empirically supported explanation: Addiction is a maladaptive attempt to self-regulate emotions. Emotional regulation is a physiological necessity for a human organism - and it is a necessity that those who can successfully do take for granted completely. For people who had safe and secure upbringings, by nurturing caregivers in safe environments, their brains and bodies learn how to self-regulate stress. Stress is a normal physiological occurrence, and people fortunate enough to grow up in safe and nurturing environments have a body and brain that can regulate these stress levels. But if you are among the unlucky and large minority of people who grew up with abusive, neglectful, or unpredictable or unsafe environments throughout childhood, then your brain and body most likely did not learn how to effectively regulate physiological stress. Because childhood is the time period wherein humans learn the survival skill of self-regulation, if we go through our childhoods endangered, constantly scared, repeatedly alone, or consistently harmed, then our systems do not learn how to self-regulate. And this is where addiction comes into play. Because for a dysregulated system, it is perfectly natural to seek regulation outside of the system. If our brains and bodies cannot self-regulate successfully on their own, then our brains and bodies will seek out that necessary regulation from outside of ourselves. In the case of substance use addiction, we find it in a drug. Gabor Mate's book explains this simply and effectively, and, best of all, this explanation removes the bulls*** that has long since been used to stigmatize addiction and its sufferers. The whole "character defects cause addiction" and "addicts are criminals and undisciplined idiots" mentality has, for far too long, permeated our culture and stigmatized those of us who cannot self-regulate emotional feeling states, due to our earlier environments that occurred when we were children and had no control to learn differently. My only criticism of Gabor Mate's work, which I hope does not dissuade people in reading his research because it is still contains the clearest and most accessible explanations for addiction that I have found to date, is that he supports the 12-step god-programs of Alcoholics Anonymous for recovery. I personally found the 12-steps of AA to run directly counter to my recovery from trauma. The 12 steps of AA actively undermined and harmed my recovery from trauma, for so many reasons and in so many ways I don't have space or time to elaborate here. And with everything Gabor Mate understands about trauma and its relationship with addiction, I don't see how he could support a program's use for recovery from addiction, when that very same program directly undermines, or even contradicts, recovery from the underlying trauma that prompts and perpetuates the addiction.
G**D
must read it
it is one of the best books ever written on addiction
H**K
"The addictive personality is a personality that hasn't matured"
Gabor Matรฉ รฉ um mรฉdico que trabalhou com diversos dependentes quรญmicos no seu hospital em Vancouver e associou traumas de infรขncia com o uso de drogas proibitivas. As informaรงรตes contidas no livro sรฃo baseadas em 3 fontes: seu conhecimento prรณprio, suas entrevistas com pacientes e, principalmente, publicaรงรตes e pesquisas referenciadas ao longo da obra. Porรฉm o livro nรฃo quer solucionar o problema dos dependentes de drogas, mas sim explicar que a origem de qualquer vรญcio โ seja de drogas, jogos, apostas, bebidas, cigarro, sexo, compras, etc โ tem uma dor e um trauma associados. O que diferencia os tipos de vรญcios entre si estรก na gravidade do trauma e nas alternativas do indivรญduo. Entรฃo o que ele ousa fazer (e que faz sentido) รฉ aproximar pessoas de todos os vรญcios com uma mesma explicaรงรฃo. Uma leitura รบtil para qualquer pessoa que tenho curiosidade no assunto, ou que tenha algum conhecido que passe por alguma dificuldade maior. O livro contรฉm principalmente 3 tรณpicos: โข Efeitos fisiolรณgicos do vรญcio: sistemas de recompensas do cรฉrebro, hormรดnios, sintomas de "craving" โข Polรญticas de Guerra ร s Drogas: como sรฃo as polรญticas na maioria dos paรญses sobre esse assunto tรฃo delicado, e como essas polรญticas podem sem revisadas โข Como combater o vรญcio: ajuda especializada, apoio da famรญlia e amigos, auto-conhecimento, meditaรงรฃo. E vale mencionar que, depois do autor definir o vรญcio, temos um parรกgrafo que explica a diferenรงa entre um vรญcio e uma paixรฃo: "Vรญcio รฉ centrรญfugo: drena energia de vocรช, criando um vรกcuo de inรฉrcia. A paixรฃo energiza vocรช e enriquece os seus relacionamentos. Concede forรงa aos outros, enquanto traz poder para vocรช. Enquanto a paixรฃo cria, o vรญcio consome."
P**S
Helpful read
Went and saw Gabor Mate live in Sydney and such an interesting knowledgeable man. I bought this for my daughter who lost her husband suddenly in July 2023
S**A
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A**E
Great book, ๐
Great book, Matรจ is the G.O.A.T he explains the fundamentals about addiction and underpins the multifaceted circumstances and predispositions, that makes a person more susceptible to ending up consumed the addictive grip. Great read for anyone on the journey of addiction, great for families helping support other people on that journey and also professionals, and not forgetting people who just want to understand more. Great -insightful read highly recommend.
R**T
Bestes buch fรผr diese problematik
Nicht leicht zu lesen aber sehr informativ
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