Why Women Have Sex: Women Reveal the Truth About Their Sex Lives, from Adventure to Revenge (and Everything in Between)

This "never-before-reported study of why women have sex was conducted online between June 2006 and April 2009.....The survey began by asking the women if they had ever had sex for one of the 237 reasons we identified in our original study." The study involved 1,006 women from a variety of backgrounds. "The basic biochemistry of attraction is the number one reason women give for why they have sex." Women unconsciously utilize two types of evolutionary instincts to seek out and find their mates--they are "Genetic benefits" that "are the high-quality genes that can endow a woman's children with a better ability to survive and reproduce." "'Resource benefits,' are the second type that include food, shelter from the hostile forces of nature, and physical protection from aggressive men, help a woman and her children survive and thrive." This is a fascinating non-fiction book. It's full of information that most readers will never have even imagined. One of the book's first examples of this is "the scent of sexiness." Women's sense of smell enables them to help select their best possible mates by the odor of the males "pheromones." A male's scent enables women to identify good hygiene and clues to the male's immune system and body symmetry and whether mating with them will produce superior offspring. That's only a tiny sample of the fascinating information supplied by this book. What will surprise many readers is many of the secondary 236 reason's women have sex. This book also seems to prove that sex can greatly relieve stress and also cure many of women's headaches. Surprise, surprise-the fact seems exactly opposite of the public's beliefs. Women also have sex to gain or regain self-respect, to gain status, to be popular, to attract a mate and sometimes just because she wants to find out "what all the fuss is about." Loneliness, revenge, charity, to protect their partner from other predatory women, and simple boredom are also important reasons. This book should be required reading for women because of the insights it provides them into human sexuality and motivation, but it's also fascinating information for males. Once a man understands the information in this book he will become a much more successful sexual partner with much happier partner(s). The book includes excellent notes, sources and a good index. Somewhat surprising to this reviewer, the book is definitely a page-turner. It's excellent. This book will also help readers of another recently published book by Eve Kingsley that I can't name unless I don't want this review published. It is listed on the Amazon listing for this book as a possible combination purchase as well as separately. The Kingsley book is also fascinating, but this book helps explains the thought processes behind its subject matter. I'd suggest the reader refer to my review of the Kingsley tome, but Amazon, or it's computer programs(?) doesn't seem to allow any reader reviews of it to be published?

Very interesting book, in part because of the references. It covers a lot of ground, and mentions a number of studies, so that if you run across one that is of particular interest, you can go find it. That way you don't get bogged down reading about the areas that are not of much interest. Much of it may be things you've already thought about, but there are sure to be some "motive" that haven't crossed your mind, and when you read those, it will make you think, "Oh, yeah, that's why she did that." Of course, I'm reading from a male point of view- women may see it differently.

This book makes two important contributions. First, is the title. Dr Meston does not confuse love and sex, although emotional reasons (love and commitment) ranked high in the original study. Second, a man can identify with many of the same reasons!With the evolutionary psychology input, the book stays within the procreation/pleasure paradigm, yet includes reasons like, "wanting to get close to God": a small percentage. The Sacred Female Had this book been written by Dr. Buss alone, I would have given it the same credence I gave Gray's "Men are from Mars": zero. Dr. Meston, perhaps subconsciously, brings a feminine balance and authority beyond the numbers.It is important to note two things while reading: 1. The original study was conducted using college age students as a base line and 2. The study was expanded to the general public with small response, yet expanding the age range. The book is only as definitive as the population studied and there are many cultural variations in reasoning.I would strongly recommend this book for women who ask, "Am I the only one who feels this way?" And for men who ask, "What the hell is going on with her?" Whatever your motivation for purchasing this title, you will find the book smooth to read and fascinating!

This book is a virtual roadmap to enhanced intimacy. Finally, a book with all the things my mother should have told me (or told me incorrectly!) with the science behind it. I found it to be fascinatingly informative and at the same time, an enjoyable read owing to the authors' somewhat humorous and unorthodox approach to the topic. It's a book my husband would never buy for himself since he thinks he already knows everything on the subject, and yet, every time I put it down, I later found him "just thumbing through it" so hint: buy two copies if you want one just for yourself. Even though we haven't discussed the book, the subtle, but important changes in our overall relationship have been gratifying to both of us. I would highly recommend this book to every couple, both married and unmarried, and everyone otherwise needing to have an appreciation of feminine sexuality.

Every book is a product of its time and location. This one is from two liberal university faculty members around 2010. The book starts out relatively good but then slides into the political narrative and does not recover. Really, what does "female genital mutilation" have to do with the title "Why Women Have Sex"? The authors even admit that their colleagues advised against the chapter on forced sex.The other problem I would point out is repeated and egregious self citation inline in the text. It's as if the authors are counting academic citations *within their own writing*. A footnote or works cited is much more appropriate. If a revised version is done, I recommend a professional editor.I provided a rating of 3 out of 5 stars due to some solid discussion of evolutionary mechanisms. You will need to wade through a bit of narrative to get the good parts. Caveat emptor.

This is a great book I recommend this for ALL men to read! Big eye opener on how women think. This book has helped me tremendously with dating.

Leitura interessante... Provando mais uma vez a delícia e complexidade das mulheres...A grande surpresa é descobrir que tesão é apenas uma das razões...

A bias sample of women answering questions over internet and a lot of confusion between correlation of events and it's causation relationship...

Ce livre, d'ailleurs écrit par Cindy Meston en collaboration avec David Buss, est trés complet et trés détaillé dans l'énumération des différentes raisons qui poussent les femmes à avoir du sexe. En effet, les motivations peuvent être très diverses et peuvent même être fort étonnantes. Cela se lit de façon facile et agréable. La combinaison de l'approche évolutionniste avec le point de vue clinique, des enquêtes avec les vignettes individuelles est très éclairante.

The book is the work of extensive research. Enjoyed reading the book. It opened my eyes to the reality.