Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: And Other Rituals to Fix Your Life, from Someone Who's Been There Hardcover – February 18, 2020

Thank you Tara. While most of the book including the ending Tara brings you along and thanks you, she has an amazing ability to draw the reader in, I felt like I was in so many of the chapters and was part of her friend family. Page after page was filled with inspiration, instruction, examples of self reflection as well as gentle reminders of the faults we face when we truly examine ourselves. For example, it was as though she’s right there with you personally, while you read and say to yourself I can’t journal, she counters it with so many valid reasons why, AND the excuses you are likely giving yourself that ultimately hold you back.I feel it’s important to mention that though some reviews mention the language, I was unbothered reading it, in fact I wouldn’t want it any different. Tara’s writing was authentic, often brutally honest, encouraging and uplifting. She speaks of glitter but there is no need to filter her words with glittery compromises of politically correct verbiage.Whereas I was reluctant to journal, I now can’t wait to begin. I’ve already screenshot, printed and posted on my walls certain advice she has given. It’s made me want to set up my “own little office” where I can write, reflect, learn and grow, a place just my own!Reading this book, at a time of my life where as a new widow, starting over, having to face the past and clueless about the future, I can honestly say Tara gave me hope, direction, and inspiration to make the rest of my life the best of my life.I ordered the kindle, and will be ordering the hard copy to gift. Thank you Tara, I’ve felt quite lost , despite self help books, therapy and other’s advice, after reading this all I feel now is nothing but possibilities, for the first time in a long time I feel I can conquer the haunts of the past, kick the friend enemy within to the curb and I’m actually excited about the years ahead , navigating my own self discovery and getting to my “Paris”. I highly recommend this book. Sincerely, Susan

This book changed my life. I will just start there.I have purchased not one, not two but three copies of this book. I have given it as gifts and read and re-read it.Tara has this way of making you feel like .. well we aren’t alone in this world and maybe sometimes it is okay to be just where you are. Life moves forward and we all grow (if we choose) and learn from our lessons. We can sometimes even laugh about it.I was in a place where maybe this book found me .. or I found it but either way .. it changed my life. I had just had a major break up, major surgery and then Covid hit the world and it was a bit much but ... I found some good in the bad. I started journaling .. and writing what I was grateful for and .. going for walks (couldn’t run at the time) and ... bought some thank you cards ... and life got a little bit better.This book put me on the path to some serious self love and .. becoming a better person.. so that I can make the world a bit better for the people I love. Tara’s book is humorous and there is a vulnerability she shares with the world.. I mean how many of us would write down our “stuff” and put it out there.. for the world to see.I don’t usually write reviews but this one is worth the time.We all have the choice to read books and maybe they will help us .. but In the end it isn’t up to the author to change our lives, it is up to us. They give us a little push and perspective in life. I will forever be grateful for this book. I will probably ready it a dozen times and gift it to more friends because I believe the message is positive and a good one and we should all go buy ourselves the fu$King lilies.

You need this book that you never knew you needed. Serious, funny, practical. Bring more joy to your life. Buy this!

At the age of 63 and a lifetime passion for self improvement, I was past this. It's a perfect book for my 29 year old daughter.

I found this book on the best sellers list. When I first started reading it I was getting kinda bored not ganna lie. But I thugged it out and told myself ima finish it regardless and see what the hype was about. SO WORTH IT! The way this author truly spoke to me about her struggles and I could relate opened up my respect for her and the way she composed this book. I felt for her struggles and shed a tear here and there because sometimes you forget that there are more people out there that you have no idea go through things. And Can possibly go through things you went through.. such a great read! Recommend!

I’m a PD junkie and in the spirit of transparency, bought the kindle on sale. What I was met with was a delightful self-help but not in the sappy or over clinical preachy way, there’s cursing (THANK YOU Tara) but rather an honest and down-to-Earth account of how Tara finally came to love her life. With stories that made me laugh and cry and carefully curated lists of how you too can fall in love with you life, this book surprised me in the best way possible and gave me new tools to add to my own self-love and care toolbox.

With every chapter I read, I felt Tara was talking to ME! I struggle to read through self-help books, but I didn't struggle with this one at all. I really enjoyed Tara's vulnerability, honesty, humor...and she was relatable. Took lots of notes and have started my own rediscovery.

Wow, what a great book! I just finished it, and I think I'm going right back to the beginning to work my way through with my journal. Inspirational and motivating, genuinely funny and also bittersweet at times. The last chapter is my favorite, and I have tears in my eyes. No spoilers here, but I say, read it as soon as possible and all the way to the very end! You will LOVE it!

honestly, this is one of those books that like reached deep into my soul, found all the bits that I thought belonged to me and me alone - the kind of shame, despair and guilt that I couldn’t imagine anyone else felt - and articulated them more beautifully than I could ever have dreamt of. I’ve never felt more seen in my life.It’s a good shout for someone who’s my age and stage in life (late 20s early 30s and wondering what the hell is going on and if I’m doing this right). Tara chats about our inner frenemy, there are neat tips and tricks for working on making gratitude work for you and excavating those soul deep emotional wounds we like to mask with wine/chocolate/guilty-Just-Eat takeaways/Netflix binges that leave you 4 seasons deep in a show that you’re not sure you even like at 2am on a Tuesday.Anyway, no, I’m not getting a commission for this and yes, you should probably read this book. 😂😂

This should be mandatory reading for any overwhelmed, anxious ladies out there. An utterly joyous, beautiful, hilarious, actionable, tangible and effective guide to pulling yourself out of a tough time. Even if you're not going through a tough time, I feel that so many of these tips should be taught in school!Definitely a life enhancing read :)

I just loved this book. The title grabbed me straight away. It’s such a great read. Its so well written. Full of really useful stuff. It took me a while to read because there is just so much stuff to absorb. It’s really helped me over the last month (during lockdown) and I have incorporated quite a few things from the book into my daily life. I think it will be a book that I read again and again. Well worth the money.

I was expecting empowerment but I ended up disliking the author's voice - it seemed a bit self absorbed. I downloaded this to read on the train but abandoned it about 2 chapters in, and looked out of the window instead.Sorry but not for me

Funny, comforting and EXTREMELY insightful. Not just as a cover to cover kind of read, but as a trusty manual you take notes from and remember something new every time you pick it up. Have recommended to my best friends!