Emotionally Healthy Twins

Worth a read, but books can only prepare you so much, the rest you need to wing.

Some interesting advice that I will definitely keep in mind, but overall this book was alarmist and somewhat negative.Pretty heavy-handed preaching that if you don't do everything you can to treat your twins as separate individuals, they'll turn out messed up. Some of her advice was pretty obnoxious, such as to tell people, "We're having two babies!" "You mean twins?" "Yes, but we are thinking of them as separate individuals and hope you will too. By the way, if you're thinking of getting them a present, make sure it doesn't match." Although your friends are weirded out, you should treasure the gift you're giving your twins: individuality.Your twins should have separate rooms, separate clothes in separate dressers, separate activities/sports/etc, separate friends, separate classrooms, and as much "alone time" with their parents as possible. All of this sounds kind of idealistic--not everyone is going to be able to provide all of this. But if you can't, your twins are probably going to be messed up. And if your twins love each other and have a unique bond, watch out--it's probably a sign that they haven't bonded enough with you and they are too close to each other.I really wonder what some other adult twins would think of this book...

Actually I have no idea how good this is. Ordered it for a friend but I know the author and she has great kids!

Great insight about what causes twins to act the way they do. Good advice on what to look for and how to encourage individuality.

I'm not very impressed with this book.First, I can't imagine having told others that I would be a mom to two babies....rather than say 'twins'. Let's get real!Second, being a parent is a joint effort. The dad doesn't just support the mom, it has to go both ways, especially in the real world where either just the mom works or where both parents work outside the home just to make ends meet.In theory, I'm sure the author means well. But I think she might be just a little bitter about her own upbringing and that definitely shows through her work.If I had the choice again, I'm not sure I would have spent the money on this book.

Gives good food for thought on raising twins. I think it's more for identical twin pairs and how to make them feel like individuals.

So much valuable information on ways to help develop 2 individuals!

Excellent for parents with twins.

The basic message is to treat your twins as individuals, which is a good message, but some suggestions a little OTT for me (such as saying to people that you're expecting 2 babies rather than saying you're expecting twins). I can also sense the authors own issues about being a twin coming through in the writing. Overall though, good to read and consider the ideas suggested - most I'd consider common sense. Probably more relevant to identical twins than boy/girl twins.

As an expectant father of twin girls I found the book exceptionally useful both in explaining the concepts but also in providing practical advice on how to implement them into everyday life. So much of societies lay “knowledge” of twins is based on faulty logic and beliefs and this book is a brilliant antidote!

Interesting though some points are laboured.

This is one of the 2 only books that really helped me psychologically, raising twins. The book points out exactly the risk all parents of twins are facing: neglecting our twins' emotional health. I myself was "neglected" on this aspect, being a singleton and suffered from it. I needed as much tips as I could have, not knowing what it's like to be a twin. I now feel equipped to face the challenge, having read this amazing book. However, you have to keep in mind that each baby, child and family is unique. You'll never find a book that is right on the spot for you on all aspects. I really want to thank to the author for putting efforts on helping twins.

I have taken some keypoints from this book that i will use woth my twins such as givong them time alone and making sure one doesnt speak for the other, but i do think the book is quite biased that seperate lives is the only way and much of the book is about thos, rather than lots of different aspects of raisng twins.