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# Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex Paperback – January 6, 2004

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    DO NOT BUY unless you are from the 50's or earlier and believe women are inferior...
  

*by E***Y on Reviewed in the United States on September 21, 2018*

.5 out of 5 stars (as in.....one half star, and BARELY that.) A friend and I were talking and this book came up. She seemed shocked I had never read it. I'm a huge fan of expanding my knowledge in any way, plus, I'm married! So I decided to give it a whirl. This book would likely only be useful in the 50's, when women belonged at home, cooking, cleaning and taking care of babies...and were meant to be fully submissive to their husbands. If you want to believe that men and women are equals, this book is NOT for you. I am by no means a feminist, that whole movement these days is just obnoxious, but holy moly this book is sexist! Words cannot express how awful this book is, but I will give it a try for the purpose of enlightenment. The main bullet point of this book is that women need to walk on eggshells and tip toe around their men, for fear of upsetting them in some way. I'm a big reader of non-fiction/self-help type books. I love knowledge. I am also a big under-liner in books. I underlined one sentence that was somewhat intelligent. the rest of the time I just asterisked with LOL or OMG next to it! Let me find a few excerpts for y'all! (Side note, I buy a ton of books, so I buy them all used on Amazon. It seems whoever read it before me didn't even get as far as I did before realizing how awful it was. Highlighting the first few dozen pages, then nothing.) Ok, here is some of a list of things not to say to your husband, because it will upset him . (Or, as stated in the booked verbatim, "...ways a woman may unknowingly annoy a man...") "There's a parking spot over there." ~If this annoys your husband, you have a ridiculous brat for a husband. Seriously?! "You should spend more time with the kids; they miss you!" ~I can see that this could possibly bug some guys, but it should more be bugging them that THEY have put themselves in a position for someone to tell them that their kids miss them. "Oh, you forgot to bring it home again? Maybe you could put it in a special place so you will remember it." ~Again, if your 'man' gets upset at you for saying this, you don't have a man; you have a whiney baby. "Without an understanding of how they are turning men off with unsolicited advice, many women feel powerless to get what they need from a man. [...] "[...] What if his table manners are atrocious or he dresses really badly? What if he's a really good guy but has a habit of behaving in a way that makes him look like a jerk?[...]" "The answer is, she should definitely not offer advice unless he asks." ~Ha! OMG! So a man could be completely oblivious and is actually embarrassing himself, but instead of letting him know, you don't want to annoy him so you continue letting him make an arse of himself?! Then, in that situation the book gives the following advice... "She should say to him "There is something I want to talk about, but I don't know how to say it. I don't want to offend you. Would you listen and then suggest a better way that I could say it?" ~Right?! I'm not even making that up!!!! I mean, I know I have a ridiculously amazing husband, but come on. I seriously feel sorry for anyone who is in a relationship that this book would be helpful to. "To withhold correcting a man is a way to nurture him. Giving advice is only helpful if he asks for it." ~If he doesn't know he is doing something wrong, how could he possibly know to ask for advice?! "When a man becomes quiet he is saying "I need some time to think... I will be back. ", but he doesn't realize that a woman hears "I don't love you, I can't stand to listen to you, I am leaving and I am never coming back!" ~If you are a woman or your woman has ever thought this way......you/she needs some serious mental health help...STAT! "Women don't think of giving appreciation, because they assume a man knows how appreciated they are." ~Say what?! I tell my husband thank you every time he cuts the grass. I tell him I appreciate him calling the mechanic so I don't have to. I tell him that I am grateful that he ran out to get something from the store that I may have forgotten to buy. In fact, I'd say the opposite is likely true, MEN often don't verbalize appreciation, even if they do appreciate. Good grief this book is AWFUL! I quit just past page 100. It was pure torture to read this. PLEASE do yourself and your marriage a favor, and DON'T read this.

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    A CHAUVINISTIC READ
  

*by A***R on Reviewed in the United States on June 13, 2019*

I just graduated with a degree in counseling and this was one of the books my mentor recommended to further my educational references. I was excited to read it as I have heard it praised by many people over the years. Unfortunately, I couldn't have been more disappointed. The book actually annoyed me and made me angry.Dr. Gray gives men 2 ways to relate to the women they are in relationship with:1. Listen to her.2. Do as many small things as you do big things for her.Dr. Gray gives women many ways to relate to men they are in relationships with:1. Show appreciation for everything he does. (Because he needs a cookie to feel good about himself for every little thing he does)2. Admire him (How about he does something to earn admiration)3. Give him his man cave space even though you are hurting, wait and hurt until he feels ready to deal with you.4. Speak in small direct sentences with no detail because his attention span is low. (Really and these are the leaders of our world!)4. Don't give him unsolicited advice because he will feel you don't trust him to figure out a solution and be offended (Are grown men really such babies).5. Accept him for how he is-if you give him advice he will think you are trying to change him and be insulted and feel incompetent-even if he is incompetent in some situations. (Oh Vey!)6. Be careful to phrase your requests for help appropriately. Say would instead of could or can you. If you say could or can you, he will think he could do what you are asking but he isn't going to. If say would you, he will be more willing to because he has a choice. REALLY! That is so childish!7. There is a training sequence for how we ask him for help. One of which is to be okay with him telling you NO. Of course there is no direction for him to be okay with you telling him NO. I don't think so! (Really, is there a training sequence that he needs to learn for how to be an equal adult in a relationship?)There were a couple of good suggestions. I do think that we should be aware of what each sex finds most important is helpful, but this book was heavily laden with accepting a man for how he is and learning to cater to how he is and very little with how a man should cater to his woman.I also found the Love Letter/Response Letter a very useful tool, not just in romantic relationships but with any relationship.Overall, hugely chauvinist.and hopefully outdated-I hope society has grown past this approach. Dr. Gray portrays men as sensitive, immature, selfish, thoughtless babies that we have to tip toe around to make them feel good. My questions is  " If this is how men really are, and we have to do all this to be in a relationship with them, why would we want this?" Clearly, he portrays females as the superior sex and males as the inferior.

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    This is the best book ever written on communication between a man and a woman.
  

*by S***X on Reviewed in the United States on September 26, 2018*

This book will save your relationship.  Men and women are different in the way they communicate. We have different primary needs.  This book teaches you the difference between men and women.  For you ladies, you will learn how to say things to your man in a way that is better understood by him.  You will learn why your man pulls away from you and learn that the way he is acting is not your fault, the more you understand him, the better your relationship will be.  Im going on 20 years in my second marriage. My first was difficult and we never did learn how to communicate.  My second marriage was saved by this book.  I have given it to both my daughter in laws and to every couple that I am close to that has ever gotten married.  This book truly works !!!

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