How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age (Dale Carnegie Books)

Is dealing with people your biggest stressor? It is for most and life has gotten more complex with the Internet. Here people can say anything and everything with little repercussions. This book explains that we should think of each communication online as a way to build trust. Many people also wish to be influencers. Since life is all about relationships this book explains how to be well liked by those you are in contact with online. I will say than telling a lie to someone to help them save face may not always be the wisest thing to do. However, the advice to admit to your mistakes is valuable. The original "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is still a great book to read and I'd recommend it. This book is also well worth taking the time to read as it provides a modern and positive message which is inspirational. I thought the author expressed his ideas well and gives very thoughtful advice. Also, I did not originally like this book when I first read it. Maybe I wasn't ready and needed to be more humble to accept the messages this book provides. On the second reading I agreed with most of the book. It took five months for me to read this book again and I'm glad I gave it a second chance. ~The Rebecca Review

One of the greatest books ever written in its original form, the new book delves into the challenges that this digital generation of emails, and cells, Facebook and Twitter faces in humanizing these newer abilities to "touch base" while acknowledging that there is no replacement for face to face contact with more sensitive subjects, as in a reprimand or a communicating heartfelt thoughts and feelings with a loved one. There are "permanent in nature" messages we communicate when we press "send" on that email that are irreversible. Thus I found this area of the book very cutting edge. Too much of the time people in both business and personal relations are writing from an emotional focus, and "send" is the culmination or exclamation point of those emotions with in many cases irreversible results (its in black and white with your name and a time stamp!) A quote from the book is fitting here. "If you need to discuss a mistake or gaffe that somebody made, its best to do it in person or over the phone. Save your written communication for praise and constructive advice." Other areas of the book for this digital world were very enlightening as well. The proven fact for instance that the internet while availing us many conveniences in the way of information, has made us more shallow thinkers, more impatient with each other, (service personnel, friends and loved ones). A famous movie critic in 2010 was noted as saying that there is a skitterish quality to this generation, not considerate of others, only in the getting of theirs, and quickly. You know that sense of isolation you feel when a person is using a device in your presence or that eye contact with another human that is impeded while they are sending a text or otherwise disallowing a form of interaction that was once taken for granted? While this book is not a cure for that it is certainly a balm in recognizing when you yourself have trampled over someone's feelings by negating their importance in your life. All people are important. The checker at the market lighting up when you speak her name! (its right there on her name tag!) Also, remembering people's names is not easy. But is one of the most crucial areas of being successful in all aspects of human contact. This is a fact from the original Carnegie text that has lost none of its impact. I find the more I say a person's name the easier it is to remember, and it personalizes the thought I am trying to bring across to them. I was shocked when the book ended. I wanted more. It is definitely on my re-read list. A couple more quotes from the book I liked though the whole of the book "must" be taken in, these but snippets: "He who sows courtesy reaps friendship." "Giving away credit is a magical multiplier." "Questions allow you to create a conversation-in any medium-that can lead to a better place for all involved. And it allows everybody to feel that they were involved in shaping the outcome." I became a better, re-wired and "more connected" human being.

Dale Carnegie could be credited (or blamed depending on your perspective) for the glut of motivational books that have been published since 1936. How to Win Friends and Influence People was released that year and was rated by Time magazine in 2011 as one of their top one hundred books of all time. The sagacious investor, Warren Buffett, has only one diploma hanging in his office, his certificate of Dale Carnegie training. The version I am reviewing here follows the format of the original 1936 edition, but does more than simply use twenty-first century examples; it adapts the time-honoured principles to the age of the social megaphone. If there ever was a time when Carnegie’s principles need to be taken seriously, it must certainly be now. The first principle, “If you want honey, don’t kick over the hive,” has been retitled “Bury your boomerangs.” The boomerangs are the things you say and write that when aimed at others, spin back and hit you. An article from the Huffington Post quoted in the book describes thirteen Facebook posts that got their authors dismissed from their jobs. Googling “dismissed from my job because of Facebook” yields fourty-six million more. In 1936 an unwarranted letter might have been seen by the recipient and a few others, all of whom might be appeased, today try retracting what you tweeted or said in front of a TV microphone you believed was off. Carnegie counselled: Don’t criticize, condemn or complain. Most people can distinguish between what is nothing more than flattery and what is an affirmation. Flattery is telling the person what they want to hear, affirmation requires more thought, requires seeing the person well enough to sense what to affirm. For that reason affirmation can have the life-changing impact that flattery never has. This is Carnegie’s second essential principle of engagement, “Affirm What’s Good.” In the section on making a lasting, positive impression on others, Carnegie opens with the call to “take an interest in other’s interest.” Quoting a piece of research conducted by the New York Telephone Company in the 1930’s the most frequently used word in conversations was the personal pronoun “I.” The significance of self-interest has not and is unlikely to change. The former editor of the New Republic and political blogger, Andrew Sullivan, invited readers to submit shots of the world just outside their homes. This interest in other’s interest went on to become the centrepiece for the Atlantic Monthly’s online strategy, and enhanced his personal following. People are attracted to people who care about what interests them. Carnegie placed great store on the value to relationship of smiling. The research finding of Christakis and Fowler confirms that people who smile tend to have more friends with smiling getting you an average of one more close friend. This is not trivial as people only have about six close friends. With much of our communication mediated through digital technologies, smiling takes on a new challenge: How to express warmth over the phone, sms, e-mail or twitter? This is only a challenge not an impossibility with the assistance of emoticons (the little faces) for informal settings and the use of the recipient’s name in the text wherever possible for formal ones. When the lead singer of a little-known band had his guitar smashed by careless baggage handlers on a United Airlines flight he sought redress from the airline for a year with no result. No one listened or showed any concern for his situation. In frustration he wrote a song describing his experience, videoed it with friends and posted it on the Internet. Within two weeks it had attracted 4.1 million views and the Times of London reported that the video had precipitated a $180 million drop in United’s share price. Not listening to customers is always expensive, but not listening to friends, colleagues and family is no less damaging. The converse is similarly true; listening is a very engaging social force. Carnegie sites avoiding arguments as a key ingredient in meriting and maintaining other’s trust. I do not know of anyone who put this better than the humourist, Dave Barry: “I argue very well. Ask any of my remaining friends. I can win an argument on any topic, against any opponent. People know this, and steer clear of me at parties. Often, as a sign of their great respect, they don't even invite me.” There is probably nothing in this book of interpersonal insights that you do not know, so you will learn nothing new. What makes this worth a quick read on your next flight is that it will remind you of what you already know and in the reminder lies the value. Readability Light +--- Serious Insights High ---+- Low Practical High --+-- Low Ian Mann of Gateways consults internationally on leadership and strategy

I Loved this book! It helps to explain life in a way that helps you to not only understand your life but it shows you simple ways of how to live a better life. Everyone needs to read this! If everyone just understood 1/4 of this book then society would be awesome! You owe it to yourself to read this book! Even while reading it it made my life better! Learn how to handle difficult situations, how help the people you know to do the same and most importantly give you the skills/ understanding to raise your children to have better lives! You will not regret having read this book!🧐

I find the concepts of this book invaluable such that one could read it again and again. On my way to work, I will alternate between listening to a chapter in the book and a “just for fun” novel. Hearing the concepts again sometimes sparks a new thought on how to improve a situation—or better yet, how to avoid making one turn out poorly. This updated version gives modern day examples virtually anyone can apply in some fashion. I have recommended this books to colleagues who are struggling connecting as supervisors to their staff, or young Soldiers just starting out experiencing the world as an adult and establishing their careers. The book is transformational.

Great book. Easily can achieve multiple reads without being bored. Very practical advice that can be used in really any situation including family, friends, coworkers as well. The epilogue has a very nice summary of some of the key statements and suggestions for practical use. Some of the more helpful hints include: smile, avoid talking negative about other people, learning to share the credit or praise with others, always take time to know an individual better, try to to bring your baggage (or biases) into the conversation with other persons amongst others. As always a general theme when handling other people includes the law of karma and treating others with respect. Other helpful series from Dale includes how to win friends and influence people as an added aside. Good read, consider reviewing frequently though. Cheers.

This book is more managerial than personal, and is really aiming to teach leaders how to become effective leaders. Who else would want to influence people but leaders or people who want to anyway? The book's structure is good. It starts off with how to engage with a person. And essentially, it starts with the self. The first point of contact. And then ends with how to lead change. It's a great transition, and the table of contents is a lesson in itself. And yes, I do agree with most of the points. The supporting evidence used here is anecdotal, and not based on scientific studies, which I would have preferred to be included. Still the anecdotes give insight and great examples as well as interesting points of view. The attempt to give a digital perspective sounds more like an aside, and really, the book is still "How to Win Friends and Influence Others" with just a few notes on how to apply it in the digital age. For people looking to have more in depth analysis of digital application, this is probably not for you. However, for people looking to read up on leadership, this book can help and can supplement your knowledge. Overall, I think this is a good introductory book to read for people looking to become agents of change in their world.

The first edition from Dale Carnegie is still relevant, but the world's technology has altered our lifestyle more than any other advancement in the nearly 90 years since it was first published. How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age is the perfect update to the original book. Cole offers practical advice that has been updated to fit the modern modes of communicating through email, social media, and instant connections available through personal devices. It's an easy read and one that readers will not regret.

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A thoroughly simplistic book, which states the obvious. Whilst simple and obvious it still conveys messages that most of us forget daily especially when communicating with others. The chapter summary is essentially as follows: - don't focus on problems but solutions - didn't find fault reaffirm good qualities - find out what the other people desire and focus on that - take an interest in other people's interests in order to improve relationships - smile a lot - remember people's names - listen more than talk and do so actively - talk about things that matter to others even if they don't you - make others feel good about themselves - don't argue with others even when you're right - admit your faults - begin friendly and don't go in expecting a fight - tap into the group collective - allow others to take the glory - appeal to honest motives and people will support you - talk with others about your journey - lead by example, the impossible should be embraced rather than shunned - say positive things even when giving bad feedback - acknowledge your faults before looking at others - highlight your mistakes quickly and don't attempt to hide them - use questions to lead people rather than telling them what to do - play down other people's faults in order to influence them The above are all simple facts of day to day communication but are skills many of us lack. The book essentially focuses on these points and gives case study scenarios through which each are explored. A simple but effective book and should feature in any executive's library given that today saying even the slightest thing wrong can go viral within minutes leading to the death of one's career. Overall book length, for the hardback format, was around 230 pages with large font. The book took me around 5-6 hours total to read from cover to cover. A quick and easy read but one I nevertheless recommend.

Super gutes buch. Kann ich nur empfehlen.

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O livro é simples e objetivo. Ele traz os conceitos do livro original e faz pequenos ajustes para o mundo moderno. Aprendi que a arte de fazer ou mantê-los está baseado principalmente em paciência e perdão. Recomendo pessoas que se interessam pelas experiências sociais.