A Smart Girl's Guide: Friendship Troubles (Revised): dealing with fights, being left out, and the whole popularity thing (American Girl) Kindle Edition

The idea of this book is nice, especially for tweens, but the advice is like the kids themselves don’t have any opinion. And idea for something to say to someone mean is like, “Please stop, you’re hurting my feelings.”. Bullies obviously know that, because that’s the whole point of what they’re doing. Kids nowadays won’t say this stuff anyways because they’re smart enough to know that what I said is true, except they figure that out by themselves. I would recommend parental and/or advice from your kid’s friends only, maybe other trusted people.

Bought this for a ten-year-old who doesn't yet have to deal with this (but it's probably on it's way)...she loved it, read it cover to cover and could really relate to the way kid friends sometimes grow apart and that it can be painful, but it's okay and that things will adjust. That new friends can be as good as that old relationship, even if they are not with the same person.If I remember correctly, the book deals with not only "what happens if your friend wants to move on from the friendship" but "what if you want to move on from the friendship." It offers ways to understand both sides and to encourage empathy for the one who might be getting hurt by the way things are going.I'm not an American Girl fan: I think their products are over-priced and elitist, but their books offer an astoundingly grounded viewpoint that reinforces the "it's okay to be you, even if everyone is different" mantra that I can only respect and support. The book is not too thick, has pictures, and bright colours. There is a lot of empathy encouraged.I bought this in conjunction with the America Girl's "A Smart Girl's Guide: Drama, Rumors & Secrets"

This book is great for tween girls in middle school trying to navigate friendships and changes that come with middle school girls being catty and mean and nasty and turning on former friends. If your daughters sensitive and sweet it’s harder for them to Understand and tough for a parent to explain without strangling someone ...lol

As a social-cognitive specialist, I am always on the lookout for tween-appropriate books that reinforce the social learning concepts I am teaching. I love this book (and many others from American Girls)! I am consistently impressed with how grounded the ideas and concepts are in current research and love that the book is intentionally written FOR tweens and teens (doesn't require major amounts of adult interpretation). I lead a 6th grade book club for girls at the school where I consult, and this book is the highlight!

This was great for me to give my 9 year old daughter when she was struggling with her best friend. Sometimes it is nice to have something to back up what us parents are saying. It is nice to have pictures and this book says things in ways that girls understand and get. It really helped her out and I think will continue to be a great resource for her.

Bought a bunch of these for my daughter. She's in 4th grade and the "clicks" are forming and name calling is starting. These books help a lot. She loves them, runs to the mailbox when i tell her i ordered another. They are written well and in language kids can relate too. Wish they had them when I was a kid. I bought them used and they came in perfect condition.

I’ve been reading several of these books to my daughter in the hopes of helping her reach a higher emotional intelligence and survive the drama of tweenagehood. These books are beautifully written with amazing tools and psychology behind them. I have recommended them to every mother I know. I would have loved to have had these growing up. They have done an amazing job of simplifying personal developmental concepts that most kids don’t have access to until much later in life usually. I love the idea of investing in my daughters soft skills and helping her exceed on life through more then just what they teach you in school.

If you visit my profile (you can do this by clicking my name) you will see that I have recently reviewed another Smart Girl's Guide book. That is because my daughter loves them so much! She is in fourth grade. She had a little bit of friendship troubles back in 3rd and 2nd grade, but now she has one close friend and seems to be doing okay. Anyways, I bought this book. It's really encouraging. In the book, a page says something about how in Chinese, the word "crisis" has the symbol for opportunity. There's also a lot about mentioning to your friend if you're fighting, "We need to take a break." It is also a really good book for girls who are dealing with being bullied. It has lots of ways you can stand up to bullies. This is such a good read for ages 8-13.

These are a good set of books for girls growing up and needing some expert (but not bossy parent) advice. WE have 3 of these now, and whilst my 10YO and 8YO both say they've never read them for fear of admitting a problem, I've found them both secretly absorbed on several occasions. An important parenting thing for me. Sometimes not forcing the issue and providing the assistance is enough.As a 43YO Dad I have NO IDEA over the intricacies of girls friendship groups, the politics, the cliques, the expectations, the psychological bullying (to be frank). We've seen this starting to creep into our daughters lives, and bought this book as a way to allow them to read a little without having to ask for help. We constantly check in but it's clear that aren't always comfortable opening up.The content is set out in a plain, well illustrated way that takes you through the problem, why it happens, how to manage it, and ways to cope. Some solid advice provided in a lovely, empathetic way.It wasn't till they arrived and I was perusing that I realised these books were published by American Girl. If you have girls, they are the holy grail of 18 inch dolls. We have the cheaper version in our house BUT importantly that link made sure that my daughters trusted the content that little bit more.

Both my 8yr old and 10 yr old have found these books really helpful. There is only so much advice a mom can give before kids start to roll their eyes or glaze over. This book says it better/differently than I do, and so it makes a great "reference" guide for girls who are starting to deal with friendship issues at school. We have several in the series and have been happy with all of them.

This is a great book, I can recommend it to anyone with a 9 year old daughter (or a bit younger or older)! It explains relationship issues so well and easy enough to understand for a child and it's actually fun to read it together.

my 9 yr old daughter says that she really enjoyed reading this and got lots of tips, however she tends to forget the tips and needs to keep coming back to it every few weeks, therefore its an excellent buy!

This was recommended to me by a friend when my daughter was having some friendship difficulties in Year 6.My daughter found it really useful and has read it both on her own and with me. She refers to it when she is worried about anything that's going on in her friendship group, and it's helped her gain better perspective on what's happening and has also encouraged her to be more assertive.It's obviously written for an American audience but that's not been a problem, the advice translates well - and my daughter speaks fluent American anyway thanks to the Disney Channel ;)I'd definitely recommend this to anyone with a daughter between the ages of 8-12 having problems with her friendship groups.