Shyness: What It Is, What To Do About It

Well, I too began to question myself and feel frightened when Zimbardo presented the many theories of why one may be shy... But, this is the thing, he explains these are mere theories, conjured by many different people, and that they may not apply to everyone. He is not for putting people into categories... I skimmed through these parts as I only took in those ideas that were most important to me.... Yes, he mentions some scary things that stay in one's mind... How most men that go to prostitutes are shy, and that many horrendous crimes are committed not only by people with long records, with leanings towards impulsive acts; but, that many crimes are committed by the good citizen, who for many years were the quiet but all too controlled and repressed individual, who one day "snapped"...I really loved the second part of this book though. Zimbardo's compassion for the reader is really felt in these pages. He explains to us the detrimental effects of shyness on a society (with commentary on society's where shyness is not prevalent), gives various exercises that allow readers to really take in how they see themselves, and outlines effective ways to deal with anxiety, how to meditate, and common sense ways to stay comfortable with people in social settings. I could really feel this author wished the best for people dealing with low self-esteem. After reading this book, I felt compelled to open it up again just to feel I had a cheerleader in its pages. I know it will take work and action to bring change to my life, but this book made it feel possible.

True this book is a little outdated, but it contained the best information to understanding and overcoming shyness. I was painfully shy most of my life. Reading this book several years ago made me not only see myself differently but helped me overcome most of my shyness issues. It helped me see that many times it's how we view ourselves and not how others view us that's the problem. We are our harshest critics. It is a must read for all who suffer from shyness.

The best thing about this book is that it shows that many people in the world are shy. If you are shy you feel like you're not alone. It talks about how great a problem shyness is and what we can do about it. An interesting and easy read.

I haven't finished reading the book yet and already it has provided plausible reasons and explanations of shyness that it in itself is making me notice things in my behavior that are helping me eliminate that shy behavior. There is a lot of work to be done and I consider this book an excellent guide for the motivated shy person.

Good book for my 14 year old daughter. She is interested in being a Psychologist. Because, I'm one. I think that is cool!

reading the book is a three star rating but buying the book is more of a four star rating. thanks

This book is awesome for anyone who wants to get over their shyness, or just wants to learn more about it. Very informative, very good. I have learned so much from this book it is AMAZING! Highly recommended. The author, Dr. Philip Zimbardo, is the pioneer of studying and treating shyness.

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